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How to help stop Trump right now

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I just set up a monthly donation to the ACLU – they are taking direct action to stop Trump!
 
We are still a country governed by the rule of law, and if our independent judiciary issues stays and rulings against unconstitutional executive actions, the vast majority of government agents will comply – no matter how many Twitter tantrums the Phony King of America throws.
The ACLU is instrumental in this process, because they’re stepping in to stop illegal presidential actions in real time – a necessary supplement to the popular protests, legislative engagement, and political planning by Trump resistors.
(Seriously – Disney’s Prince John character is perfectly prescient:

He sits alone on the giant throne

Pretendin’ he’s the king
A little tyke who’s rather like
A puppet on a string
And he throws an angry tantrum
If he cannot have his way
And then he calls for Mom while he’s suckin’ his thumb
You see, he doesn’t want to play)
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A field guide to passive resistance, for citizens living in a country occupied by fascists.

french_resistance_group_poster_posted_in_paris_during_the_liberation_of_the_cityExcerpted from the Simple Sabotage Field Manual, published by the OSS in 1944, and currently available from the CIA website.

It’s good to remember that employees can do their part to gum up the works of would-be dictators, often simply by demanding the highest standards and the most scrupulous adherence to rules.

And also that if all else fails, we regular citizens can use acting stupid and crying as a weapon against the fascists. I think I’m prepared!

 


General Interference with Organisations and Production

  • Organizations and Conferences
    • Insist on doing everything through “channels.” Never permit short-cuts to be taken in order to expedite decisions.
    • Make “speeches.” Talk as frequently as possible and at great length. Illustrate your “points” by long anecdotes and accounts of personal experiences. Never hesitate to make a few appropriate “patriotic” comments.
    • When possible, refer all matters to committees, for “further study and consideration.” Attempt to make the committees as large as possible — never less than five.
    • Bring up irrelevant issues as frequently as possible.
    • Haggle over precise wordings of communications, minutes, resolutions.
    • Refer back to matters decided upon at the last meeting and attempt to re-open the question of the advisability of that decision.
    • Advocate “caution.” Be “reasonable” and urge your fellow-conferees to be “reasonable” and avoid haste which might result in embarrassments or difficulties later on.
    • Be worried about the propriety of any decision — raise the question of whether such action as is contemplated lies within the jurisdiction of the group or whether it might conflict with the policy of some higher echelon.
  • Managers and Supervisors
    • Demand written orders.
    • “Misunderstand” orders. Ask endless questions or engage in long correspondence about such orders. Quibble over them when you can.
    • Do everything possible to delay the delivery of orders. Even though parts of an order may be ready beforehand, don’t deliver it until it is completely ready.
    • Don’t order new working materials until your current stocks have been virtually exhausted, so that the slightest delay in filling your order will mean a shutdown.
    • Order high-quality materials which are hard to get. If you don’t get them argue about it. Warn that inferior materials will mean inferior work.
    • In making work assignments, always sign out the unimportant jobs first. See that the important jobs are assigned to inefficient workers of poor machines.
    • Insist on perfect work in relatively unimportant products; send back for refinishing those which have the least flaw. Approve other defective parts whose flaws are not visible to the naked eye.
    • Make mistakes in routing so that parts and materials will be sent to the wrong place in the plant.
    • When training new workers, give incomplete or misleading instructions.
    • To lower morale and with it, production, be pleasant to inefficient workers; give them undeserved promotions. Discriminate against efficient workers; complain unjustly about their work.
    • Hold conferences when there is more critical work to be done.
    • Multiply paper work in plausible ways. Start duplicate files.
    • Multiply the procedures and clearances involved in issuing instructions, pay checks, and so on. See that three people have to approve everything where one would do.
    • Apply all regulations to the last letter.
  • Office Workers
    • Make mistakes in quantities of material when you are copying orders. Confuse similar names. Use wrong addresses.
    • Prolong correspondence with government bureaus.
    • Misfile essential documents.
    • In making carbon copies, make one too few, so that an extra copying job will have to be done.
    • Tell important callers the boss is busy or talking on another telephone.
    • Hold up mail until the next collection.
    • Spread disturbing rumors that sound like inside dope.
  • Employees
    • Work slowly. Think out ways to increase the number of movements necessary on your job: use a light hammer instead of a heavy one, try to make a small wrench do when a big one is necessary, use little force where considerable force is needed, and so on.
    • Contrive as many interruptions to your work as you can: when changing the material on which you are working, as you would on a lathe or punch, take needless time to do it. If you are cutting, shaping or doing other measured work, measure dimensions twice as often as you need to. When you go to the lavatory, spend a longer time there than is necessary. Forget tools so that you will have to go back after them.
    • Even if you understand the language, pretend not to understand instructions in a foreign tongue.
    • Pretend that instructions are hard to understand, and ask to have them repeated more than once. Or pretend that you are particularly anxious to do your work, and pester the foreman with unnecessary questions.
    • Do your work poorly and blame it on bad tools, machinery, or equipment. Complain that these things are preventing you from doing your job right.
    • Never pass on your skill and experience to a new or less skillful worker.
    • Snarl up administration in every possible way. Fill out forms illegibly so that they will have to be done over; make mistakes or omit requested information in forms.
    • If possible, join or help organize a group for presenting employee problems to the management. See that the procedures adopted are as inconvenient as possible for the management, involving the presence of a large number of employees at each presentation, entailing more than one meeting for each grievance, bringing up problems which are largely imaginary, and so on.
    • Misroute materials.
    • Mix good parts with unusable scrap and rejected parts.

General Devices for Lowering Morale and Creating Confusion

  • Give lengthy and incomprehensible explanations when questioned.
  • Report imaginary spies or danger to the Gestapo or police.
  • Act stupid.
  • Be as irritable and quarrelsome as possible without getting yourself into trouble.
  • Misunderstand all sorts of regulations concerning such matters as rationing, transportation, traffic regulations.
  • Complain against ersatz materials.
  • In public treat axis nationals or quislings coldly.
  • Stop all conversation when axis nationals or quislings enter a cafe.
  • Cry and sob hysterically at every occasion, especially when confronted by government clerks.
  • Boycott all movies, entertainments, concerts, newspapers which are in any way connected with the quisling authorities.
  • Do not cooperate in salvage schemes.

Two simple words to help your “different” child

image credit: Southbank Centre

image credit: Southbank Centre

When my second grader told a classmate that she doesn’t believe in God, his response was immediate:

“I’m going to call the police!”

At the time, I educated her about our constitutional protections and assured her that the boy had no idea what he was talking about. But since then, there have been a lot of comments, incidents, and societal messages that have made her feel shamed and excluded in different ways. Actual comments from playmates include:

“Science proves that if you shoot a girl with a Nerf gun, it hurts more.”

“You can’t rake leaves – this is just for boys.”

“Only babies use training wheels.”

And ambient cultural ideas have definitely taken up residence in her head, from the feeling that we’re the only non-Christian family in the state, to the concept that being plump is both disabling and blameworthy.

I’ve struggled to equip my child to cope with these messages – to help her believe that they’re stupid, wrong, and should hold no power. But little kids are by nature impressionable and often unsure of themselves. Giving her the confidence to reject these ideas has been challenging.

But when the casual sexism from her male playmates got to be too much, I had a burst of inspiration.

“That’s bullying,” I said.

There’s a very strong culture against bullying in school now, with ongoing education designed to stop bullying. Every kid in our school knows “bullying” is unacceptable. The key is that they may not understand all the ways kids get bullied.

Using this powerful label to call out sexism proved to be incredibly effective. Suddenly my daughter’s eyes shined with certitude and indignation. Simultaneously, it gave her a tool to use in the moment – now when someone tells her girls can’t do something, she knows she can say, “That’s bullying!” She’s confident she has right on her side.

And this of course can be applied to discrimination she may face on the basis of religion, looks, or any other characteristic. Plus the beautiful thing is, she can use this concept as a self-check before making a comment to another child, and as a shield when other children get made fun of or excluded based on any difference they may have.

Maybe we can help our kids navigate this often-hostile world, and be an ally to others, just by teaching them that bullying isn’t confined to taking lunch money or excluding someone from a game.

Best excuse ever!

Sorry I haven’t been posting. I started working full time, the kids’ lives got very busy, I started hanging out with some really cool new friends. I was wondering how I could juggle everything. AND THEN I GOT FUCKING CANCER.

Yes, my right boob went rogue and tried to kill me. I sliced it up, and then to keep the rest of my organs toeing the line, I scorched the earth of my entire body, leaving no quarter for possible enemy agents. This is war, Peacock, and you can’t make an omelette without breaking any eggs! (Oh yeah, my ovaries shut down permanently thanks to the process.)

But I made it through the fight, and have come out the other side to tell you there’s still no God, and for the love of all that’s holy, eat brownies when you get the chance, because life can be short and the width of your hips can indicate a healthy recovery from 16 weeks of barely being able to eat. I eat the brownies, and the deep fried wontons, and I suck the literal marrow out of – well a literal cow bone, but metaphorically out of life too.

more to follow if anyone is interested.

Thanks for your comments!

I almost started this post with something like, “I’m terrible – I’m sorry,” but you know what? I’m not terrible – I’m just a busy parent! And I wish I had more time to devote to this blog lately, but ya gotta have your priorities. (I got a full time job, and somehow these kids are still around needing food and care and love all the time. Thank goodness for my fabulous co-parenting husband and my mother, the wonder-nanny!)

So instead, let me say that I just worked through approving a backlog of very nice comments, and I AM sorry about letting them sit neglected amidst the spam for so long! Thank you for reading and contributing!

And I did renew the blog for another year, so even if I don’t post any brilliant insights, at least people can still look at the old stuff. You never know when a ready-made, snark-filled rebuttal to Darcia Narvaez might come in handy.

Cheers, y’all!

Minecraft Creepers – Creeping on Little Girls

By Klapi (Own work) [CC-BY-SA-3.0 (http://creativecommons.org/licenses/by-sa/3.0)], via Wikimedia Commons

Good clean fun

Tweens love Minecraft, if my kids’ set is any indication. And it’s a fabulous game for creativity, persistence, and problem solving, as well as just being fun. Kids can play by themselves, or they can go online to one of many servers and play games together within a Minecraft environment. My daughter has found some really fun and challenging servers through YouTube videos by trusted Minecraft gurus, and of course through friends. She and her friends like to all join a server, and set their phones up in front of them so they can Facetime and talk while they play. (Due to the angle the phone is typically set at, my husband has taken to calling them “The Nosehair Club.”)

There are all kinds of  monsters in the Minecraft world, including the Creeper. It’s a nasty opponent that sneaks up and then explodes, destroying everything around it, including you and your constructions.  It gives very little warning, and can have devastating effects. Luckily there is a simple way to repel them – keep a cat around, and Creepers will run away.

The real scary characters

Unfortunately, there’s another type of creeper on Minecraft servers – creepy dudes who creep on kids. And getting rid of them is more complicated. I asked a certain ten-year-old girl I know (who I’ll call Bella) what kind of chat messages she had gotten from other players that made her feel uncomfortable.

“You’re cute.” (without preamble) 
 
“I want to fuck you.” (without preamble)
 
“Will you marry me?
Will you marry me?
Will you marry me?
Will you marry me?”
 [Is told, “NO!”]
“You fucking bitch. Stalker! [continued swearing until chat turned off]”

She also described another player constantly following her in “sneak” mode and mimicking all her movements.

I don’t know if players using male skins experience the same kind of thing, but referring to her girl friends who play, Bella says, “We’ve all had it happen to us.”

To me, it sounds like there are certain players who will flirt with, proposition, stalk, or abuse players who use female character skins. My guess is this is mostly coming from immature teenage boys (the bulk of players are 15-21, and 94% are male). Motivations probably range from clueless romantic excitement that “OMG, there’s a girl, an actual, real female person, who is into this game I love,” to older boys forgetting/ignoring that a lot of pretty young kids play, to just straight-up trolling jerkwads. As much of a worrier as I normally am, I doubt there are many actual child predators lurking for prey on Minecraft gaming servers.

But who cares? The point is that prepubescent children are trying to play a fun game with friends, when someone sidles over and sexually harasses them. My concern is protecting my kid from the feelings Bella describes: feeling stunned, wondering, “What’s wrong with you?!” and well, being creeped out.

“Minecraft is not a dating site!” Bella emphasizes. “It’s meant to play, and build, and construct, and, like, play cool minigames.”

What can we do?

I asked Bella what she does when this kind of thing happens. She replied that she tries to ignore it, waits for chat to end when a game round begins, and had just learned from a friend that you can block communications from individual players.

In reality, there is a lot more that one can do, but kids don’t necessarily understand the systems and procedures for reporting bad behavior. So here is some information on what you can do.

First, of course you could prohibit your child from playing online. Or from playing on servers you’re not familiar and comfortable with. I’m personally not willing to say “no servers,” because my kid really has a ton of fun with her friends online.

Second, you could identify certain servers that seem problematic, and avoid them. You need to be able to rely on your child to tell you what’s going on, and check in with them for this to work, of course.

Third, you and your child can take action against specific people. Typing “/mute” followed by the offender’s name will prevent that person’s messages from showing up in your chat window.

You can also research the rules for a server. For instance, Bella was playing on “The Hive.” Her dad Googled “the hive minecraft,” found the associated website, and had to click around a bit to find the in-game rules, listed in the forums. In addition to a no swearing rule, it also says,

“Bullying of any form will not be tolerated on our servers. If someone is being derogative towards you or another player, report it on the forums with a screenshot and the player(s) will be dealt with swiftly.”

So for this server, if Bella had someone swear at her or sexually harass her, she could take a screenshot showing the offending material in her chat window, then post it in the forum for a moderator to review. It’s a bit complicated – you’d have to create an account on the forums, and then upload the image of the screenshot. But at least there is recourse.

Servers often have moderators in-game as well. If you can identify one of the players as a moderator (or the administrator of the server), you can send a chat message to them asking for help dealing with abusive messages. Usually the command is /tell or /msg, followed by the moderator’s name, then what you want to say to them. Moderators will usually ban a player who has violated the rules, either for a certain time, or permanently.

Risk versus benefit

Each family has to decide whether the fun, camaraderie, and learning their child gets from Minecraft servers is worth dealing with the chat messages they’re seeing, and how the monitoring should be done.  And even if you hover and help respond to nasty messages, you can only react after your kid has seen them. It’s a difficult question. But I figured parents can’t think through how they want to handle it unless they know it’s happening. I was grateful to find out about it, and we’re taking action. As things develop, we might change our approach.

 

Resources on that stupid Milkscreen thing

Edited 4/23: UpSpring has pulled Milkscreen breast milk production “test” from the market. Nice job, lactivists!

Quickity-quick, before I run to pick up my preschooler, here are some links of interest regarding the fraudulent and dangerous Milkscreen test for breast milk production.

FDA warning letter, with contact information for FDA officials

FDA complaint line for Texas, where the company is based: 855-630-2112

Federal Trade Commission online complaint form

Texas Attorney General’s Fraud Reporting info

Target Customer Service contact info

Amazon page for Milkscreen – leave a negative review!

Change.org petition to Target to stop selling this crap

Make your voices heard before this product hurts more women and children!

How to prevent rape

dont rapeI’ve seen this image going around in the wake of the Steubenville verdicts, and it’s a great rhetorical salvo: Hey, what if we actually put the responsibility for rape on the rapists, instead of the victims? Crazy, right? It’s a very good reminder that most of the rape prevention advice we’ve heard is directed at women, instructing them how not to be raped, and how messed up that is. The implications behind it include the assumption that men are just gonna rape, nothing to be done about it, and that women could possibly do or wear or drink something that “causes” them to be raped.

So I’m not trying to criticize that list here. However, I think we could go further, and construct a list that isn’t directed satirically at malicious rapists, but to every good person out there who wishes they could help prevent rape. Not in a “potential victims: don’t wear slutty clothes!” way, but guidelines that all well-meaning people could actually use to make rape less prevalent.

I think Men Can Stop Rape is a good start. Sometimes they veer a little paternalistic, especially considering their advice is aimed solely at men. But the idea that we should protect and support our friends from creepers, jerks, and potential rapists is most welcome.

So I sat down and thought “What do I want my daughters to know? What do I want their friends to do? What standards do I try to hold myself to?” What would be on a sincere list of suggestions for all people who want to help, not just focusing on potential perpetrators or potential victims?

I was heavily influenced by this excellent post on Captain Awkward. It tells stories of social groups passively allowing creepers to test group tolerance for sexually invasive behavior. Read this! It’s chilling how even women who are themselves harassed and groped feel awkward calling the creeper on it, and how the groups tend to exclude women who complain, rather than the perv who is assaulting people. And Captain Awkward’s response is wonderfully wonderful.

All that said, here is my proposed list of ways to prevent rape. These are for men, women, girls, boys, people who worry about being raped and people who worry about their friends being raped, and people who just want to make our society less tolerant of rapists in general.

How to Prevent Rape

  • Remind yourself often that women are human people worthy of respect.
  • Remember people’s bodies belong only to them.
  • “No means no” is fine, but better to look for an enthusiastic YES!
  • Don’t let anyone have sexual contact with an unconscious person.
  • Yes, even if “it’s their own fault” they’re unconscious.
  • If you have to stop and wonder whether something is illegal, assume it’s not acceptable behavior.
  • Look after your friends – don’t stand by while someone takes advantage of them.
  • Look after strangers too!
  • Call people on their inappropriate behavior!
  • Don’t put up with creeps in your social group.
  • Don’t blame women for complaining about unwanted touching and other invasive sexual behavior.

I’m including an image for easy sharing, but if people like it, maybe someone with more graphic design skill than I have (i.e., any) could think of a way to pretty it up like the image up top. Let me know!